Personal development growth is only possible for those people who are prepared to be honest with themselves. Personal development growth will always elude you if you constantly make excuses and blame other people for the things you have done wrong.
I’ve met plenty of people who are getting nowhere fast when it comes to personal development growth. When somebody criticizes them for doing something bad, such individuals always have an excuse. They blame it on their upbringing or say that they only did it because such-and-such did this or that to them. Blaming your parents for your personal flaws or passing the burden of blame to somebody else will not help you to become a better person. Your character flaws and mistakes are your problem and only you are to blame for them.
I’m not a perfect person. There are some things that I dislike about myself and I’ve also made my share of mistakes. However, because personal development growth is important to me, I don’t blame anybody else for these things. I’m not in denial. I know who I am and every time I do something wrong I’m aware of it. For example, I can be ill tempered and when I get angry I tend to say hurtful things that I don’t really mean. I could blame the other person for doing something to provoke me. However, even if I were dealing with the most annoying person known to man, that wouldn’t excuse some of the cruel things that come out of my mouth. My bad temper is a character defect, and I know it.